What is a MIAM and why is it Important?
A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM for short ) is the first step in the family mediation process. It's a private, one-on-one session with a trained, impartial mediator. The purpose of it is not to make you commit to mediation but to give you a safe, confidential space to learn about your options.
What actually happens during a MIAM?
A Mediator will:
Listen to your situation: You can openly discuss your worries and concerns about separation, whether they involve your children, finances, or property.
Assess safety: The mediator will ask some questions to determine if mediation is a safe and suitable process for you, your children, and the other parent. It's important to know that mediation can still work in many complex situations, and it can be adapted to your needs.
Explain the process: You’ll get a clear overview of what mediation involves and how it can be tailored to your specific family.
Provide information: This meeting is a valuable resource. The mediator can offer information and connect you to other helpful services, such as financial advisors, legal professionals, or therapeutic support.
The goal is for you to walk away feeling empowered and better informed about your next steps.
Busting Common Myths About Mediation & MIAM’s:
Many people have misconceptions about mediation. Here are a few key truths to keep in mind:
It’s not a "tick-box" exercise. A MIAM is a comprehensive and valuable meeting designed to give you real resources and information. It's not just a formality to be completed before going to court.
It can handle complex situations. Different models exist for high-conflict or complex cases. For instance, shuttle mediation allows you to be in separate rooms (or online breakout rooms) with the mediator moving between you, so you don't have to be in the same space as the other person.
You may still need a lawyer. Mediation and legal advice go hand-in-hand. Mediators can give you legal information, but they cannot give you legal advice. You will still need a lawyer to formalise any agreements you reach, especially regarding finances and property.
The Role of Children in Mediation:
Mediation is an opportunity to put your children's well-being first. In many cases, it’s possible for children to have their voices heard through Child-Inclusive Mediation. This is a special, confidential meeting where a trained mediator speaks with your child (usually aged 10 and above) to understand their feelings and wishes. The child decides what, if anything, they want the mediator to share with their parents. This process gives children a sense of agency and helps parents make more mindful decisions that serve the whole family.
Funding Your Mediation Journey:
The cost of mediation is often a concern, but there are options to help.
Legal Aid: If you are financially eligible, you may be able to get legal aid.
Mediation Voucher Scheme: The government's Mediation Voucher Scheme offers a £500 non-means-tested voucher to help with the costs of joint mediation if your case involves child arrangements. The mediator can apply for this on your behalf.
Making Your Decision:
After your MIAM, you can take time to think about what you’ve learned. Mediation is a voluntary process. If you don't feel it's right for you, you can still receive a certificate from the mediator that allows you to apply to the court if needed.
The ultimate goal of mediation is to empower you to make your own decisions and find a respectful, practical way forward that works for your family, without the stress, cost, and long delays of going to court. It's a kinder, more compassionate way to navigate one of life's toughest challenges.
Booking a MIAM:
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